At age 35, Paul Gauguin was working in a bank.
A year later, he chucked that job, along with his wife, his children
and his prosperous but predictable Parisian existence for a tumultuous
life as an artist in southern France and then Tahiti. It was a life he
later described as "ecstasy, peace and for art . . . far from the
European struggle for money."
Most people who start second careers stay closer to their first
vocations. A few, though, let passion, more than practicality, guide
their choice. A yearning to express an unexplored ambition strikes them
midway through life, propelling them in a radically new direction. The
stakes are high, requiring a willingness to risk failure and
disappointment and to sacrifice financial stability. But the rewards can
be great and lasting. Work becomes a calling which, when pursued, feels
like falling in love.
"These are people who are willing to play the fool, to leap off the
edge of a cliff and know that even if they break their pelvis, they'll
mend," says Cathleen Rountree, an artist, teacher and author of "On
Women Turning 50: Celebrating Mid-Life Discoveries." "And if they really
have a passion for what they're pursuing -- and the discipline to
develop it -- they find themselves so much more present in the world."
What follows are profiles of three people who found passionate ways
to start over in their 50s.
The Writer
Before she quit her job in college administration to try earning a
living as a fiction writer, Claire Braz-Valentine says she felt like "a
small fish in a tiny bowl, about to jump into the ocean. I kept praying
that the tide would be in."
She had spent 15 years raising three sons on her own, working as a
secretary at the University of California, Santa Cruz, because it was
close to home, and eventually advancing to the top administrative post
in the literature department, with a staff of 12 and a big budget. At
lunchtime, she often rushed home to start dinner in a crock pot.
What energy she had left went into writing, usually late at night.
She recalls her oldest son "coming to tell me once that he couldn't
sleep because he couldn't hear my typewriter. He asked if I'd type for
just half an hour. That clattering sound was my kids' lullabies."
Although she published some short stories, poems and two plays that
were produced off-Broadway in New York, the strain of blending
motherhood, a full-time job and writing took its toll. She had spinal
surgery three times in five years.
Five years ago, her youngest son graduated from college, and her
employer lowered its early-retirement age to 50, her age at the time.
Her "love of danger" surfaced.
"I knew if I stayed on as an administrator, I'd get used to the money
I didn't need for my sons anymore," she says. "I'd buy the new car and
nice clothes I never had, take the vacations, and I'd never live my
dream of being a full-time writer." She immediately typed letters of
resignation and hand-delivered them to her supervisors.
At first, the free time terrified her: "I'd report to the computer
and sit there and say to myself, 'No wonder I worked, I have nothing to
say.' " It took almost a year before she began relishing the freedom to
spend an entire morning writing, an afternoon reading.
She also had to adjust to living on half of her prior income. She
says each month is still a "patch job of creative financing" as she pays
what bills she can. Having grown up poor, she feels anxious when she
sees empty kitchen cupboard space, "but I haven't starved yet," she
says.
Moreover, she has found a new passion that enriches her work --
teaching writing to prison inmates. The first time she faced 12 male
inmates at Soledad State Penitentiary in California, many of them lifers for such
crimes as rape and murder, she felt frightened, she says, "not that
they'd hurt me, but that they'd see my fear." But she also conveyed her
respect and high expectations: "We are writers here, nothing else
matters."
With women prisoners, she has written a script titled "Women Behind
Bars" that portrays the stormy but close relationships between white and
black inmates, their children and prison authorities. "It rewards me so
deeply to bring art to prisons, to get people there to tell their
truths, often for the first time in their lives," she says.
As for the past five years of her own life, she thinks that "if it
all falls apart tomorrow, it will have been worth it."
The Dancer
Thomas Dwyer, a wiry 59-year-old weighing in at 128 pounds, needs all
the strength he can muster in his work -- as a modern dancer.
Approaching center stage, he gracefully lifts onto his back a fellow
dancer who is 30 years younger and 20 pounds heavier.
"I'm not an athlete and don't have innate talent for this," says Mr.
Dwyer, who has had difficulty explaining to his wife and children his
unlikely second career. "The applause after a performance means nothing
to me. I do this because I found myself here."
Modern dance isn't something Mr. Dwyer grew up dreaming or even
thinking about. After a stint in the Navy, he spent more than 20 years
working for the Department of Defense. "I was never even a social
dancer," he says. Indeed, not until he was 53 and had left his
government job did he discover his dancing passion, almost by accident.
His older brother danced with a Washington, D.C., senior-citizens
group, Dancers of the Third Age, and invited him to a performance at an
inner-city elementary school. He was entranced by the students, who
seemed delighted to see grandmothers and grandfathers on stage, leaping
and moving in ways older people aren't expected to.
Soon after, he met choreographer Liz Lerman, who in addition to
working with senior citizens leads a professional company that has
blasted stereotypes about who should be on stage. Dancers in the company
range in age from 24 to 71. "Liz helped me find a side of myself I never
knew existed," says Mr. Dwyer.
He has been a member of the Liz Lerman Dance Exchange for the past
six years, spending 11 months of the year performing around the country
or in rehearsals. To maintain his strength, he sticks to a rigorous
daily exercise regime. "It's more complicated for me than younger
dancers," he says. "But I won't ever let go of a dancer no matter what
the struggle is for me to hold them." And there's pride in "showing it's
possible for men my age to do this."
Most rewarding, he has discovered that through dance he can share his
deepest emotions. Much of the company's repertoire is based on its
members' life stories. "Liz reached inside of the Tom Dwyer that was so
afraid of exposing himself," he says.
He, in turn, has helped others find themselves through movement,
especially at nursing homes where the company holds workshops. "Whether
they've got Alzheimer's disease or are in wheelchairs, I urge them to
struggle, to feel useful and love themselves," he says. "If they can
only move one hand, I tell them they can't let that hand wither."
The Child-Care Specialist
John Surr feels a surge of pleasure when he walks through the door of
Karasik Childcare Center in Silver Springs, Maryland, and is greeted with a
big hug by two-year-old Julie. Within minutes, he's sitting on the floor
surrounded by preschoolers, building blocks and singing songs.
It's a world apart from the sedate, oak-paneled offices of the
International Monetary Fund in Washington, where Mr. Surr spent 24 years
as an attorney. "I started out a very ambitious, industrious lawyer type
with my nose to the grindstone," he says.
But halfway through his career at the IMF, Mr. Surr began admitting
to himself that being a lawyer, even in the dynamic realm of
international finance, didn't make him happy. "I was leading a
workaholic life, in an institution where the exclusive preoccupation was
money, " he says. "And then I began growing in a very different way
becoming much more people-centered."
It took him more than a decade to do something about it. He felt
constrained by the need to support his family. So at first he tried to
change the way he handled his law career. Instead of working 12-hour
days, he left the office at 5:30 to spend more time with his three
daughters. He became a shareholder-rights activist in a few companies in
which he owned stock. And he tried to "do consciousness raising" about
his new values with co-workers -- but no one was "terribly interested,"
he says. "Increasingly, I felt marginal. I wasn't at the center of
projects anymore, and a lot of my colleagues didn't understand why I
wasn't operating by the same assumptions they'd always operated by."
After turning 50, he began taking courses in early-childhood
development. "Everything pointed me there," he says. "I enjoyed being
with children, and child care was a place where I felt I could build
something I liked about the world, instead of harming the human fabric
or repairing the damage." When an early-retirement package became
available in 1991, Mr. Surr, then 53, grabbed it, certain he would
quickly land a child-care job.
It wasn't that easy, "being an older man with no experience" in a
profession where men are somewhat suspect. And when he did find a job,
there was "a sobering moment, realizing it wasn't all fun," he says. He
didn't enjoy developing curricula or disciplining children.
In the past year, he has found his niche, working three afternoons a
week in a center for children with emotional or physical difficulties. A
head teacher plans curricula, while he gets to "to play and listen and
be with the kids." He spends the rest of his work time as a child-care
advocate, on the boards of groups like the Children's Foundation and the
Maryland Association for the Education of Young Children.
"I wanted to do something that was fun and also helpful," he says.
"I've been blessed to find this work."